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What can I do about the loneliness

" Everybody has a hungry heart . . ."  croons Bruce Springsteen, and he’s right.

God made our hearts to hunger for Him but in His design we are first emotionally fed by our parents, caretakers, siblings and family. When we go off to school, friendships fill our hearts. Later, emotional needs get satisfied by work, romantic interests, spouses, and children. But the trouble starts when we stop there.  These sources are meant to point us to God, not replace Him.

No human relationship is meant to fill the hunger that the heart has for God alone. If you have made a “god” out of being in love or being married, you will crumble every time you can’t find or you lose that “love”.

Human love is not bad, it’s a gift from God, but it should bring us to a deeper understanding of how He loves us.  Human love should catapult us into the heavens to find the Love that never fails, the Love that always satisfies.

It is a terrible cross to bear loneliness after divorce. Have a plan when loneliness hits: call a friend, bring a gift to someone, or do some good deed for another. Unite your sorrow with His loneliness on the cross. While your emotions are healing, remind your intellect and will that the loneliness you feel is really and truly—at its deepest core—a longing for the face of God. And He is already right here, right now for you. In an even fuller way, He is the real, true and substantial presence in the Eucharist. Go sit with Him.

Bible: God is love, and he who abides in love, abides in God, and God in him. We loved Him, because He first loved us. 1 John 4:16, 19

Catechism: At every time and in every place, God draws close to man. He calls man to seek Him, to know Him, and to love Him with all his strength. CCC 1